Monday, October 16, 2017

Why Is It Okay For Him To Date While In Our Marriage But I Cannot?

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Why is it okay for him to date while in our marriage but I cannot?

Anonymous Question: Hello, Sashamonique, I have been married for twenty-two years and my husband has been stepping out on me with other women since day one. I told him the other day that I was seeing someone but I want to try to save our marriage, he looked at me and slapped me in the face very hard.


I asked why he was so mad because he has a harem of women he dates and he said “I can do whatever the hell I want to do” he feels like he's is a king and every woman should bow down and do everything that he wants them to do. I am tired of this man. The new man isn't no prize either but I feel happy when I am with him. Honestly, he is a womanizer also. Should I make my husband leave so I can be with my new man?



Sashamoniquetalks: That is a long time to be married and going through this sort of thing. Your husband has been taking you for granted and I don't even know why you are still dealing with this. I understand that marriage is not perfect but do we have to suffer in it, no! He wants to do what he wants to do and you should be accepting of his behavior, I think not.

Tell your husband that if he wants this marriage to work he better clean up his act or you are out the door. I am saying you are out the door because it doesn't sound like your husband will be the one leaving.


About this new man, you need to find out why you keep picking men who are not willing to just date you because this is a never-ending pattern of your life. The new man is fun right now because he doesn't have any responsibilities regarding you. Find your happiness elsewhere than with this new man who isn't faithful as well. You deserve better.

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Are You Plus Size Frisky And Sexy? Well, This Retailer Is For You

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Are You Plus Size Frisky And Sexy?Well, This Retailer Is For You.

There are not many places that carry plus size clothes that are different and make you feel the best your best.

Sydney's Closet is one of the online retailers that carry dresses that really showcase your best accents whether it is a neckline that accents your neck or your bust, or a pretty color that brings out your pretty features.

They carry dresses that you can wear everyday or work or even special occasion.  Carrying the most beautiful wedding apparel that you can find.

I love to wear dresses with color because I think plain colors are just boring in my opinion and I like to stand out.

Do we have to continue just dressing in black because we are plus size, no, we don't!  Take your rightful place as the fashionable maven that you want to be and try clothing from this retailer who really knows what the plus size gal is looking for.

In the past, I have been invited to special events and could not find anything to wear unless I had it made because of my plus size. This was the most frustrating to me because you want to go to a wedding or cocktail party and look your best.

Your local retailer at the mall carries ill-fitting clothing that doesn't fit right or the hemline is just wrong.

We no longer have to deal with that because we now have choices and you can take a peek right here.

Thursday, October 12, 2017

Listening is fundamental to your success.

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Listening is fundamental to your success.

We live in a society where everyone is running around living by their own rules. They never consider other peoples opinions and in the long run they will start to run into major problems. You say that if only they would have listened their result would have been more positive.

 When you only listen to your voice or people who lack the skills to carry on an intelligent conversation or mindset, you will find that you will constantly run into a brick wall.

No one has all the answers not even me, but there is always someone who have lived a story similar to your own and can tell you how they got through their situations.

 You do not have to agree with everything that is said but keep your heart and mind open so that you can grow and attract positive, responsible, experiences.

A closed minded person can never grow because they feel that they have all the answers and when they fall, they will often come back to the person who was trying to help them in the beginning.

 Being prideful will not get you anywhere in this life because you will find that rules are meant to be followed, to constantly break them is truly insane.

Do not be your own worst enemy. Listening is fundamental.


Thursday, October 5, 2017

Whatever Happened To Lorenzo??

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  Whatever happened to Lorenzo??
Ladies and Gentlemen, this is a true account but I have changed the names to protect the innocent. Lorenzo was a young man with dreams and aspirations, he liked nice clothes and he had a beautiful smile.

 He was a nice young man but we noticed that Lorenzo took the easy way out when it came to making his money. Lorenzo lived on the rough side of town but everybody just knew that he would make it out of the hood unscathed. He had charisma and a soft side and he attracted very beautiful and classy women.

We didn't know exactly what Lorenzo did to make his living but we knew that with the little minimum wage job that he had, he couldn't afford a lot of things that he was purchasing. His mom was a very sweet woman and he loved her and would do anything for her.

 She never questioned how he made his money. Lorenzo's dad was not around so he couldn't depend on anyone else for financial support. He took matters into his own hands and decided that he would be the man that his family needed.

So long story short, many years passed and I often wondered what happened to Lorenzo. I started doing searches online and I came across a picture of this weary man wearing rags and he was very unkempt.

Life caught up to Lorenzo and his money-making activities finally resulted in homelessness and jail time. The moral of this short story is, fast money leads to death and destruction and there is no way out of your situation than doing the right thing.

 Education plays a big part in your future and your future employment and staying on the right track is very important.

Was Lorenzo a bad person? no, he wasn't but life took its toll and he saw no way out of his situation. Life moves very fast and I wish that someone could have intervened before his life turned into the mess that it is.

 There is hope and a chance for redemption and this is just an account of how we are a product of our environment. I am hoping and praying that the next news I hear about Lorenzo will be good and he has changed his life.


If you like short stories such as this one, please comment below.

Saturday, September 23, 2017

I Love Wearing Really Beautiful Dresses.

I love wearing really beautiful dresses.

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I love dresses because it is so easy to put on a beautiful dress and be right out the door. Sometimes it is really hard for us to find dresses in plus sizes that fit our style and our plus size shape.  Let's face it, we want our shape to look like an hourglass and not like a box.

It is always my goal to get a dress that is cut in such a way to accent my body type because it is so hard to style this shape.

 I see some retailers who are moving in a more positive direction concerning plus size woman and I am so happy to see this but they are still lacking when it comes to special occasion dresses and when I started my search I found out about this site and checked out what was available and I was so surprised with the beautiful special occasion dresses that I found.

This site even has wedding dresses which makes it super easy to have your perfect dress for the most important day in your life.  We no longer have to go and have our wedding dresses made from scratch because of our size.

There are also wear to work dresses where you can put your best foot forward for work.

Shopping on this site is fun and easy.  Please leave a comment below if you have purchased anything from this retailer and let me know whether or not you liked it.








Friday, September 22, 2017

Two Female Pastors Get Married (Commentary)

I want to comment on the two female pastors who got married because they are from my neck of the woods and just want to give my two cents.  If you are living a lifestyle that is against one particular religion, I think it would be the best thing to not participate in any way in that religion.

You have to realize that you cannot change anyone's mind. I am not bashing anyone but you cannot expect people to give you the okay when it is against their beliefs.

  I also do not believe that we should beat people up because they are gay.

Below is the video regarding this subject.



Thursday, September 21, 2017

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced.

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Anonymous Question: Hello, SashaMonique, I went to Jamaica and stayed for two years because I love acting and singing but the market is not good in the state where I live. Many days I dreamed about living in Jamaica, it was something that I was adamant about.

The problem is, I have a husband of seven years and he is really kind and sweet but I told him that I wanted to move to Jamaica and he said that he couldn't go because he had a lot going on in his career right now and he knew that it would harder to establish himself in a career in Jamaica.

My husband told me to go and he would support me in anything that I wanted to do.  Secretly, I was hoping he would change his mind and come with me.  Never have I had a problem with my husband and we were truly in love with each other.

So, two years passed and I decided to come home and when I opened the door, I saw all sorts of letters on the floor and my husband was not there. I went next door to talk to my neighbor and he said that my husband had moved out eight months ago.

My neighbor also told me that my husband was married to someone else, I said that it couldn't be true and he assured me that it was. I did not believe that my marriage was over so I did some more checking and my neighbor was right, my husband divorced me and he did it illegally.

Now, I am in a very dark place in my life, because things did not pan out in Jamaica and I don't have a job or anything.  I am sorry for the long question but I hope that you can help me.

Sashamoniquetalks:  Hello, I am so sorry that this happened to you but I wonder whether or not your husband had a relationship going on before you left because it sounds like this could be a possibility.  Now, I am going to say this, why would you go to another country without your husband?  You took a big chance.

There is a possibility that your husband really loved you but could not deal with you being gone.  Please go and seek some legal advice to see if you can get some financial compensation such as; Alimony because he definitely did this behind your back.

Speak to some of his family members to find out all the details of why your husband married his current wife.  I cannot answer any further because this is a legal matter.